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“Mom, He’s Walking Towards Me…HELP”

Having a teen driver is an exciting and stressful time for all. They can’t wait to get behind the wheel and conquer the world and you can’t wait for them to pull safely back in the driveway.

When our daughter got her license there was a buzz of excitement in the house. She couldn’t wait to take her Jeep out on her own and enjoy her new found freedom. It has been a while since I got my license but I do remember that I wanted to take the car anywhere, just to drive.

She has been a wonderful help to us and I was enjoying how eager she was to go to fulfill my food shopping list, until that afternoon I got the phone call that aged me 10 years.

Leaving for rehearsal for a play she was doing in Summit, she stopped to tell me not to worry she will be home soon. “Mom, I’ll call you when I arrive, I know, don’t use my cell phone while I’m driving and put my seatbelt on.”   

A quick kiss on the cheek and she was bouncing out the door with her keys jingling in her hand. Since she was an excellent driver, I had no concerns and went about my business.

When my phone rang, a wave of calm came over me to know that she had arrived safely, until I heard her voice. "Mom, I’m stuck and almost to the shoulder of the road, what do I do?” 

After obtaining information from her, I told her to put on her flashers and stay in Jeep. I will call roadside assistance and tell them where she is and they will come and rescue her. I also called the local police and explained that she was a new driver and unaware of what to do in this situation.

She called me back and said that the cars were going around her fast and she decided to get out of the Jeep and stand on the side of the road. Normally this would not concern me except that she had broken down in a wooded area of a two-lane highway. Then she announced a statement that no parent should ever have to hear and I froze in fear.

“Mom, there’s a dark blue car that’s stopping. Oh no, Mom, it’s a tall guy that is walking towards me, what do I do? Help.” Then the phone went dead and my heart sank! Frantically, I called the police back and found out that it was an unmarked police officer that was sent to stay with her until roadside assistance got there. The dispatcher was not happy that she was out of her car, alone and vulnerable.

If you have a new driver in your house, please share this information with them.

If you experience problems with your vehicle:

  • Attempt to coast to the shoulder once you’ve determined that it is safe to do so.
  • Put your flashers/hazard lights on (know their location on the dahsboard before you drive the vehicle) and STAY IN THE VEHICLE WITH DOORS LOCKED. Sitting in the car is safer than trying to cross lanes of fast moving traffic or standing along, vulnerable on the side of the road.
  • Lower the driver’s side window a little and display a white item (napkin, cloth, shirt, etc) this will notify other drivers that your vehicle is disabled.
  • This is the time to use your cell phone to call for road side assistance. Notify the local police department that your vehicle is disabled and where you are located. Let them know if you are on a curve or alone in your car. Ask if they are sending a patrol car to assist.
  • If you are unsure who is approaching your vehicle to offer assistance, ask to see a badge or identification before you unlock your door. Do not get out until you see proper documentation or can verify who they are.

We are thankful that this unfortunate situation turned out to be a positive learning experience and wanted to share these safety tips. As for me, let’s just say now I have a reason for my grey hair!

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Deborah Bell (Editor) June 18, 2013 at 11:48 am
You're welcome! I'm sure you'll enjoy these boards a lot.
CowDung June 18, 2013 at 04:26 pm
The trouble is, that once the 'boards' are off the front page, one can't follow the discussion. TheRead More 'shout stream' has gone away with the redesign of Patch. The 'reply' feature has also gone. Somehow I don't see these boards as being all that useful for public discussion and interaction. The more effective place is on the articles themselves--they get more page space, and they tend to have a more 'discussion friendly' topic for conversation than the random board postings.
Karen Egert June 18, 2013 at 06:06 pm
I agree -- they should have a separate tab for Letters to the Editor
karen egert June 14, 2013 at 03:01 pm
Apparently Mr. Common Sense you were not at the Board meeting because if you were you would knowRead More that it was clearly outlined that all decisions and reporting of this police officer will be from the police department -- not the school. So are you saying that Lucy Biegler is now the new spokeswoman ? You said she is calling out the position for what it REALLY is ? The discrepancy in outlined roles and the vagueness of this position is reason enough to question it. Ofcourse you have an opinion , but because our children will be directly affected I think our concerns should be heavily weighed . .
karen egert June 14, 2013 at 03:05 pm
Rob -- to answer your question , I was never crazy about the DARE program and yes , I was disturbedRead More that the officer carrying a gun in school . I didn't like it . So I am being consistent. I was new to the school at the time .
A.John Blake June 19, 2013 at 06:22 am
I have no problem with a policeman in school. His ability to carry a gun is no different on schoolRead More property than elsewhere. Let us make sure we all understand that the man is a policeman, not a counselor. I think the idea that the children will be safer is absurd. Cameras in every public area in every school, monitored by the police ,would probably provide better surveillance. I object to any understanding between the Board and the Town which creates a hybrid officer who is required to act differently in school than he does on the street. In the past, the police have been hobbled by "arrangements" between the then BOE and the Town that the police would not enter the schools without permission. Investigations would not be conducted until the Board had finished its investigation. A "safe haven" had been created. This is wrong. In school, the children knew they didn't have to worry about police and acted accordingly. This is wrong. If the people want a policeman in school, let him be a policeman. Let him act as he does on the street. He is not a trained counselor . Don't think he will solve children's problems. At the moment, I don't think the entire picture has been given to us. I cannot believe there is not some writing between Dr.Dolan and the WPD which outlines the authority of each towards one another and over the SRO. I don't believe the BOE is about to allow the " fox into the hen house" without promises that restrict the policeman. I oppose any restriction of a policeman in the performance of his duty. I do not want to see the return of the "arrangements" of the past. The BOE and the Town must provide us with the full agreement or we should dismiss the thought of a SRO.
Charles Sullivan June 12, 2013 at 05:28 pm
Maddy, Thank you for your comment and I agree that's a lot of money. I just wanted to let you knowRead More that I wanted to give the board some options to consider in case they felt the need to hire a hybrid public safety officer with experience in security operations. Does the town need one, maybe. Can the WPD do more in regards to daily school security, yes I think so but they don't have to assign a cop they already have on the books for this activity. Thank you again for time.
New perspective June 13, 2013 at 02:45 pm
Mr. Sullivan - thank you for your lengthy explanation and detail. I think one of the statements youRead More made should speak volumes to all "Resource officers are proactive, and they can stop something before it starts, Police Officers are re-active and they respond to locations to enforce the law." Do we really want an armed officer in the school who MAY react to let's say someone who has a watergun but the police officer *thinks* it is a real gun at first quick glance? This happens everyday thoughout this country all by accident. Do we really need WHS to be another statistic? Here's another question....why just have an SRO at the High School? Aren't the middle school aged children MORE prone to peer pressure and stress that can cause them to want to harm others as a reaction? In my Non-Professional opinion, middle school aged kids are more of a danger than High School kids.
John Q. Public June 14, 2013 at 11:17 am
Mr. Sullivan, I believe I read that the SRO position had been eliminated for budgetary reasons inRead More the past but that doesn't really address the first issue I mentioned, nor does your comment about having external foot patrols. (As an aside, I believe the crossing guard in the morning at the corner where the auditorium is is a regular sworn police officer). In addition, I see the presence or lack of such external patrols and the lack of coverage if a single SRO has a sick day as logistical issues that can be worked out as opposed to legitimate objections. I don't really see these as evidence going against the SRO concept.
concerned citizen June 11, 2013 at 08:03 pm
Egert is just against guns, that's it. Everything has to fit into this, her small world, and sheRead More tries hard to make it fit, squeezes it, bends it and massages it. She gets help from the elitist billionaire Nanny Bloomberg for the talking points, but he has none regarding this specific topic, so she flounders.
john June 11, 2013 at 10:28 pm
Karen, karen, karen. it is to easy. never mind.
karen egert June 15, 2013 at 10:28 pm
GGG - I have nothing against the Westfield police . On the contrary, on the few occasions I hadRead More interactions with any of them., they were all professional , courteous and very helpful . I am grateful for our Westfield police . I believe that the wonderful job they do as trained police officers is spectacular . I just disagree with the use of a police officer that has only been trained in the duties of an SRO for 7 to 10 days to be the ones counseling our children. . But please don't say I'm against police officers . That's inaccurate and unfair .