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“Walking out of Jill’s peer leader program, I witnessed that this 8th grade now holds the tools they need to create a positive epidemic. These 8th graders have the power!!”

Did you read about the Peer Leadership Program? http://generationtextonline.wordpress.com/

In the case of last week, working with 60 Peer Leaders, I was privileged to have my intern, Hailey, present at the training. Hailey is an Education Candidate at Kean University, and is much closer to the kids' age than I am. I asked Hailey to write a paragraph so I could get her perspective on the peer leader program we teach so often. Here is what she said:

“Watching Jill’s peer leadership program takes me back to my school days. I went to a k – 8 school.  I grew up as an only child so my peers had the BIGGEST influence on me…especially the older ones. They were the ones with the lingo, the ones that wore the coolest clothes, the ones who I actually listened to. I would pay attention to every move and every word they would say. I respected them in a totally different manner than I did my teachers. They were both ideals, but held different roles. My teachers held the reins and I never really made a connection with them. I always felt
like they didn’t understand me. It was almost as if they were only interested in
teaching and just getting their point across, and that’s it.

“Watching Jill connect with these 8th graders was amazing. They were having fun, laughing, but working hard at the same time. One thing I thought was neat was “how” Jill was teaching them. The goals of each lesson were:

•   what it takes to be a great role model

•   how to actively listen

•   to “notice”

•   fun lessons disguised as games to do with the younger students

“Rather than standing in front of the room lecturing, Jill was teaching by example.  Instead of telling the 8th graders “how” to do it, she did it with them. After she presented a lesson or exercise, she asked them to critique what she did. She asked them questions and allowed them to “connect” what is effective when teaching a class. These peer leaders are used to being told what to do by an adult. In this program they were all able to independently think and express their own ideas and thoughts. They were learning what it means to be a good leader, teacher and listener. Just by the excitement and conversations going on in the rooms, I could see that this group of 8th grade students felt good about themselves. They felt important!

Now it’s the job of those peer leaders to create the same experience with the younger students!

“We all learned that even calling someone by name or reaching out for a high five in the hallway creates a positive environment it starts with the simplest gesture! It’s all about making somebody feel good. If someone had noticed me and made me feel important in 4th grade, I know that would have given me the confidence I needed to copy the same positive behavior…maybe I would have recognized the types of things that hurt other people…maybe I would have noticed if somebody else needed help…maybe I would have not always followed the crowd.

“Walking out of Jill’s peer leader program, I witnessed that this 8th grade now holds the tools they need to create a positive epidemic. These 8th graders have the power!!”

Jill Brown

Generation Text Online

jill.brown@GenerationTextOnline.com

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JERSEY GIRL September 7, 2012 at 12:18 pm
I believe Jill means well, but these programs make little difference. Look at our Dare Progam, and then look at the drug/alcohol issues in the town by young people. Makes little difference for the small percentage of kids who hear her message. There is bullying going on in the schools, the HS is no different, but I feel students are reluctant to speak up or defend. I dont think many students will feel confident in real life settling to use her skills.
ItsMyOpinion September 7, 2012 at 02:11 pm
This is another sales pitch for Jill Brown's websites. It reads like she wrote the letter from Hailey herself. Is Hailey a fictional character or imaginary friend? Why hasn't the Westfield school system invited her to speak to students in Westfield? I guess her reputation within the borders of Westfield is well known.
Backyard dog squat September 8, 2012 at 04:07 am
I'm confused by the very first sentence. Peer Leadership Program is not trademarked. It's like asking if you've heard of tissues.
I have to agree that this business owner is abusing the "local voices" section to freely advertise her business.
Monk September 8, 2012 at 09:34 am
Social media's unintended(?) consequence: a billion people competing for business and attention on your monitor.
Wally Westfield September 9, 2012 at 04:42 pm
Perhaps Hailey would be better served putting forth her apparent talent writing novels...........

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karen egert June 14, 2013 at 03:05 pm
Rob -- to answer your question , I was never crazy about the DARE program and yes , I was disturbedRead More that the officer carrying a gun in school . I didn't like it . So I am being consistent. I was new to the school at the time .
A.John Blake June 19, 2013 at 06:22 am
I have no problem with a policeman in school. His ability to carry a gun is no different on schoolRead More property than elsewhere. Let us make sure we all understand that the man is a policeman, not a counselor. I think the idea that the children will be safer is absurd. Cameras in every public area in every school, monitored by the police ,would probably provide better surveillance. I object to any understanding between the Board and the Town which creates a hybrid officer who is required to act differently in school than he does on the street. In the past, the police have been hobbled by "arrangements" between the then BOE and the Town that the police would not enter the schools without permission. Investigations would not be conducted until the Board had finished its investigation. A "safe haven" had been created. This is wrong. In school, the children knew they didn't have to worry about police and acted accordingly. This is wrong. If the people want a policeman in school, let him be a policeman. Let him act as he does on the street. He is not a trained counselor . Don't think he will solve children's problems. At the moment, I don't think the entire picture has been given to us. I cannot believe there is not some writing between Dr.Dolan and the WPD which outlines the authority of each towards one another and over the SRO. I don't believe the BOE is about to allow the " fox into the hen house" without promises that restrict the policeman. I oppose any restriction of a policeman in the performance of his duty. I do not want to see the return of the "arrangements" of the past. The BOE and the Town must provide us with the full agreement or we should dismiss the thought of a SRO.
Charles Sullivan June 12, 2013 at 05:28 pm
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Karen, karen, karen. it is to easy. never mind.
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